kids distracting me from working

The email struggle is real.

I felt like this topic would be a great one to jumpstart our content posting. In fact, as I’m writing this my 2.5 year old is sitting in my lap and crying because she just fell down on a rope feature at this local kid’s coffee shop we go to. I’m trying to get work done while she is grabbing at the positive reinforcement fruit snacks in my pocket and bumping me with every move she makes. Sitting on the floor in her carseat is my 3 month old, just chilling out and sleeping with the occasional stir looking for her Wubbanub (best pacifier ever!!). My 2.5 year old just decided she was done sitting in my lap, and is now trying to rock my newborn’s carseat with her foot rather aggressively. Another “No” for the books here because I don’t want the baby to be slingshotted out of the carseat. I went to this coffee shop so I could get a little work done and so my child could play with a ridiculous amount of toys and run wild with the other kids who are constantly running up the slide. I feel conflicted. She keeps coming back to me for attention, or “falling” close by with a fake little cry. No one told me how emotional these toddlers would be! Let’s add that she’s crazy spunky, so her emotions are about as deep and wide as the Atlantic Ocean. I’ve gotten up about 30x in the last 10 minutes to re-direct her into being captivated with some other toy or to stop her from attacking another child.

Let’s be real here.

This happens almost everyday for us. There are not enough hours in the day to respond to emails (or cook dinner after working all day), and so often when you just need a few minutes your concentration is broken by the little terrors we love so much. For the love of God, please give me 5 minutes of quietness. Sometimes you even get really angry and just snap (Update: she’s trying to dump water out of her water bottle which is very close to my laptop at the moment). “I love you so much, but I need to get this done so badly” I think to myself. Why is this so hard? Why do I constantly feel such a disconnect between mommying and running a business? I desire to separate the two, but I always have ideas and a to-do list popup in my head during my time with my kids. I want to be present but my mind goes elsewhere.

How can we or should we deal with these kids distracting us from working experiences?

1. Just let the kids take your thunder. Sometimes you have to give in and just be with your kids, even when you have a billion things to do. They need you, and they just want you. Remember how quickly this time will go by. The days may be long, but the years are short.

2. Set boundaries. Sometimes your kids need to play on their own, and they need to understand that mommy and daddy are not always available for playtime. If we always gave in, we would never get anything done. There is a balance, but we were not put on this earth solely to entertain our children.

3. DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT TO YOU. I can’t tell you how to deal with each and every one of these situations. You have to decide how you want to run your household and what values you want to instill and prioritize as a family. But in the process, make sure you take some mommy time. You can’t be everything to everyone, and it’s okay. What I do know though is if you have a clear mind and peaceful heart, you will naturally be a great mom regardless if you give in or decide to stand firm.

I don’t have all of the answers and sometimes I’m a bad mom, but I do have a desire to have joy and purpose in everything I am doing as a mom and as business owner. I want you to know that you are not alone in this, and I hope my experiences can resonate with you and your life. No one said it would be easy, but they did say it would be worth it which I wholeheartedly believe and experience (50% of the time, haha).

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